Why is it “wrong” for a 40 year old to marry a 20 year old?

2022.01.26 13:45 GrannySmith-777 Why is it “wrong” for a 40 year old to marry a 20 year old?

So my (40F) ex (40M) married a 21F. We have a 17F daughter, as well as other children with the youngest being 11F. Age aside… it makes sense for them to be together. They have similar worldviews, were homeschooled, strict religious types. But the age difference really is obvious and awkward to navigate. My kids bring it up a lot as being embarrassing, among other things, and I struggle with how to conceptualize it myself. It feels predatory, grooming, taking advantage of her naivety (she quit her job to take care of the kids on his weeks and said it was God’s calling on her life). They got engaged 3 months after starting dating, married 3 months after that. They are active in their church community, who seem supportive of their relationship. Technically, they are both consenting adults and there is nothing wrong with their relationship. I want to be supportive of the kids’ relationship with their dad, but I also want them to have healthy views of what healthy relationships look like. I see a lot of feedback on Reddit around the idea of this age disparity being “wrong”. I’m still conflicted of how to support my kids through it other than just living my life and being there for them, and just keeping my mouth closed about all the aforementioned drama.
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2022.01.26 13:45 Intern_Boy Fox News interview lesson for future.

The Fox News interview has me concerned that this movement can be quite easily delegitimised when it’s spokesperson is an autistic 30 year old dog walker aspiring to be a philosophy teacher. That is the pinnacle of a lazy leftist stereotype. It completely undermines the legitimate issues being fought for, eg workers rights. If you have a spokesperson, have someone charismatic and prepared who is directly negatively affected by the system, eg health care tied to job, not someone completely out of their depth.
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2022.01.26 13:45 adumbcollegestudent3 Needed my transmission replaced in my 2021 Crosstrek

I got my Crosstrek in December of 2020 and fell in love with it. The perfect size upgrade from my Legacy. However, at some point the start to stop feature at like stoplights and stop signs (not sure what it’s called) became very rough and shuddery. After driving my dad’s brand new Forester Wilderness I realized just how bad the problem was and took it into the dealership. Apparently a manufacturers issue but they didn’t put enough fluid in my transmission at the factory and that’s what caused all of the issues and by the time I took it in it had caused enough damage to warrant an entire new transmission. Luckily it was all covered by warranty along with the fact they admitted from the start it was nothing I did wrong.
Has anyone had a similar issue with any of their Subarus with the same feature? Should I be worried about a similar problem happening again? Or I guess also PSA if it feels a little shuddery don’t hesitate to take it in!
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2022.01.26 13:45 BebopRehab Why aren't people freaking out over existence and self awareness more?

It's crazy how intense this self awareness stuff is. Why aren't people freaking out and having existential crisises over it? I think I am.
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2022.01.26 13:45 Thick-Community4946 Alia Bhatt when she was a kid

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2022.01.26 13:45 New_Page8996 HITMAN III deosnt launch

I tried installing Hitman III and ran into a problem whre the launcher well launches but when i press play game it loads and nothing happens pls someone help. I used some installer i dont know the name off i think it starts like ferr or something on f and its russian.
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2022.01.26 13:45 ana1718 Type me - I used the questions provided. I've been trying to find my time for two months with no success and digging myself a rabbit hole!

How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself. I'm 19, female I describe myself as a very fair person, I like to ensure that me and others around are treated fairly and there isn't any bias. I strongly value my family and my animals. I need my creative hobbies or I will not be able to function out of pure boredom
Is there a medical diagnosis that impact your mental/comportamental stability somehow? Anxiety most likely
Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it? No religion, close bond with my mom. An ok relationship with my biological dad, we don't talk too often because I got bored of initating conversation all the time. My step dad and I have a great relationship. I have a lot of siblings, I get along good with them. Always lived with some sort of pet, I hate being alone for a long time (like a few days) but I like being alone for a few hours or being alone in a full house (I love that so much)
What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not? All creative subjects linked to music production and lyrics. I've done that my whole life. I also write and draw.
If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed? It would really depend on my mood to be honest. As long as I'm with my pets I should be okay, but I think I'd get lonely if I feel like talking to someone.
What is your relation with movement and your surroundings? For instance do you prefer a sport or outdoors event? If an outdoors event what is it? And why? If not what type of activities do you tend to engage in? I'm not entirely sure what this question means. I like driving with people but being to myself like listening to music. Sometimes I do like talking though, especially if the people are someone I have close bonds with and they can make me laugh or fun conversations.
How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate? As a kid I wanted to know how everything worksss, always the 'why' questions. Now it's much more toned down, backstories are so interesting in people but the process of getting it out of them is something I just don't want to do, but if I naturally hear about them or they speak about themselves its very interesting. I'm very interested in psychology and I'm good at reading body language and intentions - although the intention part I'm often wrong on. My ideas are very fast and sometimes I forget the good ones because of how fast they go, so if I get an idea about a new plot line for a book I need to write it down immediately, then later go back to it and polish it.
Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be? I only take the leadership position if others feel too vulnerable to do so. I make sure that everyone is feeling comfortable and they know what they're doing. I don't mind taking it as long as no one protests against it, and I veryyy rarely fight for it - I fight for my ideas more.
Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity? I learn things very easily, after a few tries I'm able to to know it well and then polish it. For example dancing, I learn the movements easily, then I add what I need to add to them to make them stand out more. Or learning an instrument, I see how it works first and then I make it sound good.
Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer. I'd say very much so, I write, create and write music, draw, animate.
What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them? Thinking about the past often brings back bad memories. It's strange, because I could have an amazing time in general but they stand out more - possibly because I reacted more strongly? I don't know. I contradict myself a lot thinking about the past, I have a hard time analyzing myself in that aspect. I have no trouble with the future, I know what I want to do and I don't fuss too much about it. I just ensure that I do what I can now to achieve what I want later - but I prefer fast results. I can be patient though.
How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so? I would help them. If they are someone close and it's an unfamiliar situation to myself, I will shoot a lot of ideas of ways to actually solve the problem and they can pick up what they resonate with the most to continue. If it's someone close and a situation I've experienced myself before, I'll give them what worked for me and then give a few other ideas I have considered but didn't go through with. If it's someone I don't consider close, then I'll provide with shallow comfort I guess. I don't feel like wasting my energy or expressing my vulnerability if they are not someone I consider close. By shallow comfort, I mean a few reassuring words. I think it's shallow because in my opinion it does not help the person, and only provides them with false hope. I still give them a few ideas, but if they push them away I end up with the other option.
Do you need logical consistency in your life? I'm not sure what this means. I like consistency, I don't like abrubt change, I despise dishonesty. I see no point in being dishonest when you can easily work through something by being completely honest.
How important is efficiency and productivity to you? I can't allow myself to be unproductive. If I'm sick and genuinely can't be productive, I try to reassure myself that I'm sick and it's okay to relax. I justify myself to others too, my mom for example.
Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that? If someone is lying a lot then I become a little more demanding. That is simply because I don't understand their motivation. Whats the point of lying? To sabotage yourself or others? There is never a good reason in my opinion, unless it is to save someones life. My sister often lies about how she feels, and normally it is because something bad has happened. It frustrates me because a)I don't like seeing her be sad b)it is making everyone frustrated c)I can't help and make everything clear again.
What are your hobbies? Why do you like them? My creative subjects are my main hobbies. They tie in with my career path but I still call them my hobbies. If not with my career path, then; writing (although I still consider it), astrology, research, reading, word puzzles, drawing, cooking. They keep my mind from wandering and keep it occupied - structuring my thoughts.
What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses? I can't learn in a full classroom with a lot of people, it starts to feel impersonal. I learn best when it's practical, when everything is explained thoroughly, and when it is personal. I don't ask questions if I feel like I understand it but need to work on the execution.
How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go? I'm not sure. I don't think about it if it's things I enjoy doing. I remember hating school, I never did my homework. My class performance occasionally excelled, but only in creative subjects. But my homework brought me down a lot.
What's important to you and why? My family, my siblings, my pets. I've always been with them, we have all have a good bond with eachother. Being mean or passive-agressive to eachother was never tolerated, we all love eachother. They are people I can be vulnerabile with and trust that they won't leave and will always be there for me.
What are your aspirations? I want to do well in my creative path. I want to find someone I'm comfortable expressing my sensitivites with and someone who wont hurt me and I can build a stable life with.
What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why? I fear death, seperation, change. I'm uncomfortable with acquaintances (to me, acquaintances are people that others consider friends) for long periods of time and in group situations. I like getting to know people personally. That's how my closest bonds normally develop.
What do the "highs" in your life look like? I'm calm, understanding, sacrifice more of my time or give a loved one something they might need more than me. I am still sensitive, but to a much lesser intent and I don't blame anyone for making me feel so - I just let myself feel sad and talk about it.
What do the "lows" in your life look like? I'm sensitive, suspicious of others, very emotional, have a tendency to blame others or myself for becoming upset.
How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so? I sometimes daydream. Only about fictional situations not involving myself - or rarely involving myself. Most of my 'daydreams' are often just trying to figure how something works.
Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about? Why I'm in a blank empty room in the first place. Then I go feel around, touch the walls, take in the scent. Then I would probably fidget and maybe sing to myself. I don't know what I would think. I would groan out of boredom most likely.
How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it? I am often conflicted between whats expected and what I want. I always end up going with what I want and when I see the result of it I'm happy.
How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life? If it's a very very sudden outburst of emotions, then I need to sit in a room by myself. Writing things out helps sooo much, but I often do it to someone else. Venting helps getting my thoughts straight but I often feel guilty in the end that I've potentially wasted someones time and I also feel dramatic if they don't answer and I've calmed down within the time that they read it. I end up deleting the messages a lot of the time.
Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why? If it's something I disagree and they are people where the relationship is fragile, then I stay silent rather than agreeing. If they are people I trust then I voice my opinion but don't judge them for theirs.
Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why would you? I don't trust strangers in an authority position. I need to see them as real people to be able to trust them and learn from them. If they are pushing me to do something I don't want to do, I will challenge them and confront them. If they are treating me unfairly I will also do that.
What is the ideal life, in your opinion? Living near all of my loved ones with my own family. Having a husband that I love and loves me, maybe having like one child. Being successful enough in my career that I can also keep my schedule flexible, giving my pets their best lives :)
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2022.01.26 13:45 lettheflamedie It occurs to me I never showed off the baby! Day 3 reservation. 472 days from res to delivery. Had to switch to the soft top, sadly. But I still love it.

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2022.01.26 13:45 christoy123 2011 Fiesta radio update (UK)

Hi all,
I have a 2011 Fiesta which I love. The only thing I wish it had was a modern stereo/ entertainment system which had car play and a decent screen etc…
here is the radio in question. I was wondering if anyone knew of any decent replacements/ bolt ons etc that I could get to upgrade me into the 21st century! (Alternatively tell me it’s not possible/ stupid idea/ will cost a fortune)
Not sure where to ask so thought this was a good place. Has anyone done anything similar?
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2022.01.26 13:45 imnewtothisbs Midterm review for Marco and Micro?

I’m starting unit 4 on both macro and micro and want to make sure i have the first 3 units down on both econs. Are there online worksheets that cover these units or would watching a review for each unit on yt and making sure i understand everything be fine?
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2022.01.26 13:45 jasonpGeringer UX (User eXperience) mASI Client Study Question Set 4

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2022.01.26 13:45 OLR94 Anyone have a idea of what I've seen?

First off, I've never told this story to anyone in fear of ridicule and the only reason I want to share this is to get closure. Second, I won't give exact geographical information (cause privacy). Third, the owls/birds/rodents in this area are small in size and doesn't have the characteristics of what I'm about to describe. And last the property where this sighting happened has two sides towards a large field.
It was about early January 2013 in southern Sweden near a ridge called Söderåsen, I was down in the night playing a video game I had gotten for Christmas and around 1am I heard whistle. I had on one occasion before heard it about a year before and then our cat had went crazy for about an hour when it happended. I didn't think much about it and continued playing, then I went out in the kitchen to get something to drink. When I came back I saw two glowing (red orange in colour) eyes in the garden about 2,5 meters (8,2") up in the air and about 5 meters away from the window. I was frightened and turned the everything of and quickly moved upstairs.
The morning after I went out in the garden and had a look on the location where I had seen the eyes. There wasn't any footprints or broken branches, but it was just behind the apple tree we have there and that's when I noticed the approximate high of the eyes. Since then I've had a strange feeling a couple of nights and I'm not sure if it goes together with the sighting. I haven't heard the whistle since.
I've tried to google around and tried to find the characteristics of what I've seen and come away empty handed. Does anyone have the slightest idea of what this could have been? (As said before, owls, birds and rodents are eliminated due to the local fauna and placement of the sighting)
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